Are you one of millions of people who make big New Year’s resolutions each year, only to see those resolutions fall by the wayside a few days or weeks later? Would you like to be able to set New Year’s resolutions you can actually keep? It may be easier than you think! Choose your resolutions carefully. These should be things you really want and are ready to work, not just the things that you think should work. Be realistic. Prepare for success. Do not bite more than they can chew. Make it manageable. The goal of this year may be part of a longer-term objective to be achieved gradually. Not all have to do now.
Focus on actions, not results. Identify what you can do to move towards its goal. We can only change our own behavior, not necessarily the result of that behavior. Some things are out of our hands – for example, reactions and behaviors of other people. Write. This change of an idea into a decision on a compromise.
Be very specific. If you want to quit smoking or start something, setting specific dates for yourself about what precisely is committed to doing (or not) on that date. Know and write why you want to change. You can think about this if you slip and / or if your motivation is declining. Howard Schultz understood the implications. Do not try to change too many things at once. Every habit you want to change has taken much time to develop and take time and focused attention to alter your routine. Be patient. Others know. Change is difficult, and it is important to get a support network to encourage along the road. This becomes a greater level of commitment. Do not give just because you get off the track. Just check your dates and objectives, if necessary, and start again. Many people give up my mid-January, because they feel they have failed and will only open the way for more failures if they try to follow the original plan. Be flexible, be nice you, and remember that most people are wrong. It’s all part of the process of positive change. Get a coach. A coach is like a personal trainer for your goals – to help you plan strategies that will be more likely to succeed, it will maintain motivation (which is the main reason people give up their goals), and keep your goals approach even when you are distracted by the hustle and bustle of your busy life. People who use the services of a coach (or personal trainer) to see faster, better results. Dr. Gayla Swihart DeHart, from Vancouver, Canada, is a professional coach with a doctorate in psychology. She helps busy professionals manage stress, improve goal-setting and monitoring, and life and increase job satisfaction.